If you think that suicide is self-focused and selfish, you have ALOT of
introspection to do.
What is it then called when you buy a new car, or a house, or
new clothes, or all that man-made crap? Not everyone around the world
has those luxuries. Why not quit your job so someone who has less money
than you can have it to make ends? No, you can't. So that is then also
selfish.
My point: to say that suicide is selfish is to say that nearly every act we do is selfish.
If
I want to become a doctor today, no one would call me selfish or think
it's an odd choice in life. But then what if in 5 years, I change my
mind? Nothing. It was something I pursued and didn't enjoy (or ended for
whatever reason) and I moved on with my life endeavors. But at that current time, becoming a
doctor was the right choice for me. This philosophy applies to a suicidal
person and their decision to end their life as well. In their current mindset, death was the right choice for
them. The only difference is that there is no turning back. That is
unfortunate, but at the end of the day, we all must do what we need to
do to be happy. Some people do drugs. Some have sex more times than they change underwear in a given week.
Some steal. Some give generously to the community. We all find ways to
please ourselves and do what we think is best. Don't bash on someone else's methods for attaining happiness
because you wouldn't like it if someone criticized yours.
To a depressed person, the idea of
death, and being dead, will make them feel good. It is an end to their
suffering.
Frankly, it is selfish to expect someone to live a life they do not desire to live.
Oh,
and ever hear that saying "having children is selfish because you are
doing it to fulfill your own needs and desires"? Let's face it: that's
true. Why do people have children for? … Got pregnant and don't want an
abortion for viewing it as murder? Well, you are doing it just to keep
your conscious clear, not suffer guilt. Pretty damn selfish to me. … Trying to save a
relationship? Selfish … A way to get money out of the government or
your partner? Selfish … Just doing it because you love your partner
and you want to create life? Heck, that is selfish because you are
looking for a way to fill your own interests. … The only way it would not be selfish is to say: "I am going to have a child because the child wants to be born, will love this world and appreciate all that there is to offer." No one says that because it is impossible to predict how the child will perceive the world. And you can't tell that the cild would want to be born, Ms Cleo. … And if you do have that mentality, you are living in one extremely small, ignorant, and delusional bubble.
So what is selfish?
People
need to start doing some introspection into not only their lives,
but human beings as a whole before they start throwing around a word
they cannot even fully grasp.
And at the end of the day, we all die.
Whether you die in 20 years, 20 weeks, or 20 minutes, we all die. Death
is inevitable. All a suicidal person is doing is speeding the process.
Again, seems less selfish than someone who buys a new pair a shoes when
they already have 2, a new car when the one they have functions
properly, or that latest cellphone or computer you are currently reading
this comment on even though there are people starving around the world
who don't even know what a computer screen looks like.
I understand where the concept of the "selfish" crap starts. It's because it leaves heartache for those left behind. But here is a little rule to live by: You cannot sit down living your life just to satisfy others. At the end of the day, you need to do what is best for you. … Oh, now that I write it, something comes to mind. And let's all face it … We have ALL heard this line before: "Don't stay in a relationship just for the children. You deserve to be happy/treated properly/be loved" or whatever crap comes at the end of that last sentence. Would you say someone who wants to separate from their partner selfish? You cannot imagine how many times I've read online about people wanting to separate or get a divorce and commentors reply with the "don't stay if you are unhappy/ for the children" line. Never once heard someone say that was selfish. Never. Ever. Ever. Why would you call them that? All they want is to be happy … as does a suicidal person who wants to die and finally find peace.
I just took 10 minutes to open your mind. … You're welcome!