/fringe/ - Fringe

I feel the exact same way. For some reason if someone needs help I inmediatly jump to help, very quickly and effectively, but I rarely help myself. I've been thinking that maybe it would help to imagine my self as a different person? but I'm afraid of dissociating.

>>125437

save yourself first. you must have a boat before you can stop others from drowning. www.iskcontimes.com/what-is-the-highest-realization/

become krishna conscious

>>125437

>Lesson I learned: people are fucking stupid, help only your close friends/family

Man I feel you. I just learned that same lesson recently. Tried to help an acquaintance going through a rough time only to get pulled into his negativity myself. It started with listening to his problems and being supportive, but then I start getting sucked into his hour long rants and calls late at night and had to cut ties completely.

It's compassionate to think that people in bad situations are the victims of circumstance and just need some charity, but really a lot of people cannot be saved because they actually don't want anything good for themselves. They are black holes that suck away the generosity of anyone who tries to help them. If you want a good life, positive people must drastically outnumber the negative ones and there is no shame in pushing people away if they only drag you down.

>>125439

>imagine my self as a different person? but I'm afraid of dissociating

You don't have to imagine yourself as a different person, just think over your actions and ask "would I expect my friend/family to do this?"

>>125508

Anon what if you can't find good friends though?

In psychology you are what they call a 'rescuer'. Self-compassion is the cure. just google these terms for info, spin it and reframe it in the way that helps you most

You don't have to forgive yourself like a fucking pussy. If you have neglected yourself then it's probably because there is a good reason. Just obliterate that pathetic faggot for good and move on with your life. You never liked that guy anyway. The weak die while the strong survive. Put your own self out of its misery and be free and strong.

Also stop helping random people so much. But this you realized already.

>>126049

>stronger than you ever dream to be

Is that so, huh?

>You don't know what the fuck I've been through

This sounds exactly like generic pussy faggot whining

>It takes balls of steel (even though i have none lol)

Time to grow some, bitch. Your OP tells everything about you and also the fact that you whine to other anons on 8ch, but now you wanna act tough? Now I perfectly understand.

>despite all this I still wanted to help others while no one helped me.

Well, welcome to earth. Enjoy your stay.

I learned to hate people by playing DotA 2 and trying to master it using every resource at my disposal. People don't realize how fucking retarded they are or how much study and knowledge goes into controlling the outcome of the game. When told about their ignorance, they become hostile and try to lose. You just have to let them whine in ignorance.

I see this everywhere now. I abandoned all my friends because they insist on their 1k mmr bullshit lives. They cannot change. It is too emotionally painful to admit they're at zero and have been scammed all their lives. They'll never grind out the independent study and research to become good at anything. They'll just passively accept whatever opportunity comes by, never understanding what opportunity really is.

It's very particular people that are worthwhile. They consciously choose top tier behavior and adjust their thoughts accordingly. They are also independent and will not want help, but are willing to cooperate in their own interest. They also believe in cause and effect, or the scientific method. Programmers of NPCs.

>>126053

I can see why everyone left this board, lately it was overrun by fucking ignorant keyboard warriors such as yourself. The power of anonimity right? You can call others in names, belittling others so you can feel superior. Everyone is a pussy bitch who is not you. Wow now you can pat yourself because how mighty you are now. You called me a pussy and you are the coolest person ever now.

I'm just happy I've never been such a low-level waste like you.

>>126053

Hey, friend. I know I can come off pretty strongly, but that's a bit much. The poor guy doesn't deserve a "suck it up" speech. There's a thread right here on pg.1 about suicide full of autists who deserve a harsh verbal thrashing. But this guy… No, my friend, just no. There's no room here for a tough-guy routine. Besides, his realization is very touching and relatable to many of us who've been taken advantage of by our friend's and family. I too am a victim of this, but just like the OP, I've healed and moved past it. Truly self-forgiveness is the hardest.

>>126057

As for you, don't let strong language offend you. Just think about it: the only thing that should offend you is when you're proven wrong here. It's painful, but educational. I believe he was just trying to toughen you up, but approached it wrong, as he doesn't know you well enough to speak to you like that.

Everyone just take a chill pill. We should be attacking the autists and sex freaks. Not peers.

~The Punished Druid

>>126056

>Offline indie and oldschool games my friend. No need to waste time with the same online crap and subject yourself to the braindead hordes.

>>126057

>I'm just happy I've never been such a low-level waste like you.

How lucky you are. It seems like I didn't have that luck to be spared of this fate

>>126061

I see you are on a mission to make this board a better place. What a herculean task…but go ahead. I wish you good luck.

>>126063

Well, if mine is a hurculean task, then what are YOUR intentions here? If you don't desire to acquisition of knowledge, and to hold civil discussions with those who deserve it, for there are many deserving people on this board, then I suggest you take your sour attitude elsewhere and go feed the Demiurge your loosh from the corner of your room… Alone.

I do have a feeling of where your coming from, though. Have you been here for awhile and are fed up with a lot of the nonsense? I can see why someone would lash out everywhere if most of everything posted here (these days) is all autistic trash.

>>126064

You forgot to add "~The cuckold larper" at the bottom of your post. Just tought I'd remind you. What the fuck is this anyway, some sort of impersonation of epyc wynns aborted bastard child?

>then what are YOUR intentions here?

I come out once every few months and drunk shitpost for 1-2 days, then I'm out again. This time I saw this pathetic thread that would be better off just posted as a comment under some Teal Swans video or just told to that guys local psychiatrist and I just couldn't resist rustling this guys jimmies. I don't know who the fuck you are tho and when or why you have appeared here. Your posts in the suicide thread are all nonsense btw, god forbid someone actually may believe that crap. But sadly this is the state of fringe now.

>>125437

You helped others because it's easier to push unsolicited and solicited advice on people instead of doing what you preach yourself. I was in the same boat years ago. Stop trying to vicariously save yourself by saving others, even if the hope is that they will return the favor and help rescue you. It won't happen because then you'd develop a dependent relationship and it's the wrong lesson for humanity.

You need to develop independence. Forgiving yourself is a great way to start. In healing such of this, I've attended Shamanic workings of group guided meditation on soul-loss and retrieval to connect with your past-self to receive your own forgiveness and love; if they were ready for it. Some of us weren't ready for forgive. Some of us were prevented by our own demons. Some of us realized we can only heal ourselves.

You may find this interesting:

http://www.donata.chrysalisheartcenter.com/4.html

Let go of trying to save those around you because it's harder to face and care for yourself. People you meet will be projections of your own situations. Until you fix yourself, the people you run into won't be fixed either.

>>126043

>You don't have to forgive yourself like a fucking pussy.

You reek of self-avoidance and false machismo. Self-forgiveness is one of the most important self-healing there is and can be the easiest. Why would such a machismo be afraid of confronting themselves again with love, compassion and understanding? Who are you trying to impress? Who are you trying to prove yourself to so you don't have to do this self-work?

You sound more afraid than confident.

>>126068

No, sadly this is the state of (you). I've been around the fringe boards lurking, reading, studying. I used to post threads for the BOND, but have since stepped away. You can insult me all you want, but I don't see how you're doing any better by apathetically shitposting. But be my guest, tip that bottle back a bit more and you might be able to see the reflection of a sad man at the bottom.